Tuesday, 15 September 2026

Why becoming a LinkedIn lunatic might save your career

A business woman looking at her phone on top of a staircase displaying the linked in logo. While also standing in front of a business mans hand holding a briefcase

As the pressure to post on LinkedIn grows, more workers are flinging themselves into the breaches of Professional Posting, without the training on how to post. Some are using AI to guide them through writer's block, and some are getting flagged for sounding like AI slop. In an employers' market, where people step on the job hunt treadmill and find it much harder to get off, LinkedIn can no longer serve only as an online résumé page and Easy Apply job portal. It's a networking necessity — not just for people when they're on the hunt for jobs, but for any who could face layoffs and land back in the applicant pool.

It can also land you in hot water quickly.

Patrick works in sales, but dabbles in real estate as a side hustle, and like any good hustler, he advertised his realtor qualifications and a newsletter he started on LinkedIn. This summer, Patrick, whose full name I'm omitting to protect his job, tells me a manager requested he brand his LinkedIn page more toward his company work at his 9 to 5. He says this pressure came as he learned through the company grapevine that the CEO raised concerns that he may be splitting his work time. He wasn't keeping his second gig a secret, but the interaction "did make me think a lot more about how I choose to present that to my company," he says, and he's less likely to post about outside work on LinkedIn now.

"You putting your head down and building a network at a company, and then hoping that same network would help you get your next job, is super short-sighted," says J.T. O'Donnell, founder of career coaching platform Work It Daily. Job security and tenure have dropped. O'Donnell says recruiters have moved from "loud" hiring, when they would post and share roles on platforms like LinkedIn and let the applicants roll in, to "quiet" hiring, where they may never advertise a job but will scour LinkedIn for candidates. The more people post about their own accomplishments and expertise, the more likely they are to be discovered. "More people need to know what you do and how you do it outside of your job, outside of the people you work with," she says.

The schism in workplace loyalty has altered the nature of job hunting. The need to go direct isn't just for founders or CEOs anymore; it's for the entire workforce.

LinkedIn, meanwhile, is taking steps to cut back on the slop, making the feed a place where more people engage with content they find useful or look to build up that portfolio. That means LinkedIn has to be a place for vanilla takes and midlevel expertise, not just spicy workplace stories and thought leaders.

"We want to protect authentic expertise and authentic conversations on LinkedIn," Suzi Owens, senior director of product communications at LinkedIn, tells me. "That's what it's all about, like real people sharing really real insights and their real lived experiences, and you should be able to show up who you are."

Authenticity on social media is in. On LinkedIn, your authentic self must also be a best-foot-forward, workplace-ready version of who you are.


LinkedIn has been building itself up as a social media platform over the past decade, during which it added video features, started a creator mode, and added skills training. During the Twitter exodus following Elon Musk's takeover of the platform in 2022, web traffic to LinkedIn grew. In the past three years, traffic has increased by nearly 16%, according to Similarweb data. The site's users have grown from 875 million in October 2022 to more than 1.3 billion today, according to the company. There are 1.7 million posts seen every minute, and the number of creators nearly doubled between 2021 and 2025. LinkedIn reported 12% revenue growth over the past year, and time spent on content grew by 10%.

As the platform has become more popular, people have mocked the "broetry" and verbose, performative nature of some posts, in which founders extract wisdom about B2B marketing from lessons learned coaching their kids' soccer teams. Redditors have collected these posts with a joyful derision and shared them across the LinkedIn Lunatics group, and some comedians have taken to LinkedIn with accounts devoted to satirizing the hustle-and-grind style of posts. It's all getting a bit cringe.

Then, AI lowered the bar to post lengthy workplace musings. Pangram, an AI-detection company, analyzed posts from LinkedIn, Medium, X, Reddit, and Substack, and found that LinkedIn had the highest proportions of likely AI-generated content: more than 30% of posts were deemed fully AI-written and nearly a quarter of the comments were flagged as likely AI-generated.

The accusations of LinkedIn's slopification have risen since LinkedIn built more AI into its platform to edit résumés and write comments, posts, and cover letters. Recruiters and job seekers alike have grown exasperated that AI makes it easy for people to apply to more jobs, jamming up the portals with applications that lack individuality and distinction. LinkedIn has responded by rolling out an AI-driven job match feature to highlight to job seekers if they would be a strong or weak fit for a role in 2024. The company backed away from the age-old job hunt advice to "just apply!" even if the job seems out of reach, and now gives people an analysis from its AI job match feature they can check before sending out a résumé.

LinkedIn obviously wants people to post more and comment more, but is cautious about AI dragging down the quality. The company removed the "enhance your post" AI writing feature in July and added a button that allows users to flag a post that "seems like AI slop." Since then, the slop emergency button has appropriately flagged AI slop 94% of the time, and the views on such content have dropped by 40%, Owens says. Hari Srinivasan, chief product officer at LinkedIn, posted that the company will soon have an AI proofreading feature that does not remove a person's voice from their posts. "We asked ourselves why do people post with AI anyway? The answer is LinkedIn isn't a one-word kind of place and they feel more confident running their posts through AI," he wrote.

If people are encouraged to use AI at work, they may feel more comfortable using it on a professional social network like LinkedIn than on platforms where they post more for friends and family, or to go viral. AI is also a shortcut for a new, typically unpaid responsibility to post regularly that some workers say they now feel pressured to do.


LinkedIn abounds with influencers, but the content some make about the workplace isn't necessarily safe for anyone to publicly engage with. Maureen Wiley Clough, who hosts the podcast It Gets Late Early and regularly posts on LinkedIn about ageism in the corporate world, says sometimes her followers will privately tell her they would have liked her content, but fear their boss would see it. "People are afraid that an errant like will be misconstrued," she says.

It's a tense situation where the culture on LinkedIn sometimes clashes with individual office cultures. And even if your posts don't rile your current boss, there's always a chance they could put off a potential new one.

Unlike other social media platforms, where rage bait and hot takes rise to the top, the ROI of LinkedIn can come to those who move quietly. "Recruiters are not looking for thought leaders," says Michelle Volberg, founder and CEO of Twill, a recruiting software company. They want some signal through the noise that people have expertise and tangible skills in their fields. When searching for candidates, Volberg says, she doesn't care if posts have four or 400 likes. While "it feels like you're posting to the void," she says, "you might not be, because somebody's going to come and creep along and look at your stuff."

The career experts I spoke to don't see any type of LinkedIn bubble bursting soon. For LinkedIn to be a place where people might enjoy spending time rather than feel compelled, cutting down on the slop might make or break the user experience. Love or hate the cringe, your career still depends on keeping up on LinkedIn.

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Monday, 14 September 2026

China’s intelligence chief just gave a revealing glimpse into what Beijing fears most about AI

Chinese President Xi Jinping looks on during a meeting on the sidelines of a visit to Zhongnanhai Garden with U.S. President Donald Trump (not pictured) on May 15, 2026 in Beijing, China
Xi Jinping.
  • China's spy chief offered a rare look at what Beijing sees as AI's biggest risks.
  • Chen Yixin identified six major AI risks for China in a journal article published Sunday.
  • His warning comes as leaders of the biggest AI companies publicly agreed that a slowdown is necessary

China's spy chief just offered a window into Beijing's priorities when it comes to AI's biggest risks.

Chen Yixin, China's minister of state security, published an article Sunday morning in China Cyberspace, a journal run by the Cyberspace Administration of China, the country's internet regulator.

In it, Chen identified six major risks AI could pose to Beijing. The first was "regime security."

He wrote that "various hostile forces and malicious individuals abuse generative AI technologies — such as deepfake audio and video, AI-generated images and text, and intelligent online armies — to produce political rumors at low cost and in large quantities."

Those tools can "spread harmful information, incite antagonistic emotions, and wage a war of public opinion and cognitive warfare," posing direct threats to China's political, institutional, and ideological security, he said.

Chen also identified five other major AI risks, including:

  • Dangers to China's critical infrastructure, because cyberattacks can be carried out with extreme efficiency, considering the power of models like Mythos.
  • The risk of large-scale data leaks, where Chinese AI users and foreign intelligence agencies alike could obtain critical national data, trade secrets, or citizens' personal information.
  • An imbalance in technological development caused by monopolies and closed technological systems, as countries can exploit AI's power and fragment supply chains in the name of national security.
  • Challenges to social governance that lead to disruptions in public order.
  • Fundamental shifts in warfare, as AI-powered precision targeting gives adversaries a major advantage on the battlefield.

More regulation for the 'wellbeing of all humanity'

Chen advocated for strong "developmental guidelines" for AI to be put in place — essentially, more government control of AI development.

What that involves, per Chen, will be for Beijing to "accelerate the construction of a security risk prevention and control system." China should promote the "healthy and orderly development" of AI through "high-efficiency governance," Chen said.

Chen also said AI should be developed "with the wellbeing of all humanity as its guiding principle."

He added, too, that global powers must "resolutely resist hegemonism, technological barriers, and exclusive blocs," and work to set up a "fair and open international AI rules system."

Chen's comments come as Chinese leader Xi Jinping advocated for AI progress at the BRICS summit in New Delhi on Sunday.

"We should take a people-centered approach, develop AI for the positive and for good, and work faster to evolve a consensus-based global AI governance framework, so that new technologies can light the way toward shared prosperity," Xi said.

The comments from Chen and Xi came as the debate over a possible AI apocalypse heats up in the US. Over the weekend, Dario Amodei, Sam Altman, and Elon Musk all backed calls to slow the pace of frontier AI development.

The CEOs voiced these concerns after several of their employees issued public warnings that the products they are making, if developed unchecked, could wipe out most of humanity.

In the most high profile instance, Anthropic researcher Jacob Coxon quit Anthropic, saying both the lab and ChatGPT-maker OpenAI are "gambling with our lives."

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What smart people are saying about the '60 Minutes' relaunch

60 Minutes Correspondents Lesley Stahl, Bill Whitaker, Jon Wertheim, Norah O'Donnell and Ross Douthat.
CBS's "60 Minutes" is back.
  • CBS is back with the 59th season of "60 Minutes."
  • The show was on shaky ground in recent months, following a string of high-profile departures.
  • Media pundits have thoughts on the first episode, released on Sunday.

CBS premiered the 59th season of "60 Minutes" on Sunday, with familiar faces like Norah O'Donnell, Lesley Stahl, and Jon Wertheim.

Sunday's episode included three main segments: an interview with a US Air Force Officer rescued from Iran, a segment about brokers offering felons paths to pardons from President Donald Trump at high cost, and a profile of the Los Angeles Rams.

"We don't often send notes to the whole newsroom. But today calls for it. It's a big moment for 60 Minutes and CBS," CBS leadership wrote in a memo to staff on Sunday to promote the latest season.

The premiere follows a turbulent few months at "60 Minutes," marked by high-profile exits, such as those of longtime correspondents Scott Pelley and Anderson Cooper, and staff discontent over editor in chief Bari Weiss' direction.

Here's what smart people in media are saying about the new season.

Brian Steinberg, Variety TV editor

Brian Steinberg, a senior TV Editor for Variety, wrote in a Sunday article that the new season, which promised change, "relied on many elements from the program's past."

"Viewers on Sunday night got only a brief glimpse of Ross Douthat, and none of Sebastian Junger, Gianna Toboni, Trevor Phillips or Ariel Levy, but were rather greeted by three correspondents who already have an association with the program," Steinberg wrote.

Alex Marquardt, Al Jazeera English host

Alex Marquadt, the former CNN chief national security correspondent and host of Al Jazeera English's "This is America," wrote about the "60 Minutes" segment on X.

"The Pentagon rolled out the red carpet for this 60 Minutes piece: Sec Hegseth, Gen Caine, Adm Cooper + the weapons systems specialist all sat down with Norah O'Donnell," he wrote.

Tim Miller, host of The Bulwark Podcast

Tim Miller, a political commentator and host of The Bulwark Podcast, criticized one segment of Sunday's show hosted by Lesley Stahl: the story about brokers offering people who have committed felonies a path to receiving pardons from President Donald Trump at high cost.

"Doing a story about pardon abuse and making it about Burkman and Wohl is like doing a story about crypto corruption and focusing on Hawk Tuah girl," Miller wrote on X. "Like yeah they are scammers and that's bad it's fine to do. But they aren't in the same universe as the real corruption."

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Sunday, 13 September 2026

What happens when you tell Jensen Huang you're quitting Nvidia

Jensen Huang smirking as he attends a media briefing about Nvidia and SK Group in Seoul.
Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang.
  • CEO Jensen Huang doesn't sugarcoat advice to Nvidia employees who quit.
  • He critiqued one startup's name and told another founder his biggest weakness could hold him back.
  • Founders said the tough love stuck — and they acted on his advice.

As they were preparing to leave Nvidia, David Hoeller and Nikita Rudin anxiously hopped on a late-night call with their CEO.

The two had spent years working on robotics at the chip giant, pushing the boundaries of simulation and helping pull off a demo in which CEO Jensen Huang took the stage with a coterie of humanoids.

The pair wanted more freedom to bring that technology into the real world and left in 2024 to found Flexion Robotics, a startup building robot intelligence.

As they dialed in from a conference in Munich, Huang didn't try to talk them out of leaving, though he did have one problem with their startup: its intended name, Checkpoint.

"He told us that the name was bad, and that we had to change it," Rudin said, adding that they'd heard from others that the name sounded like it belonged in a different industry. "I don't want to give him all the credit, but we probably changed it because of his comment."

Huang also warned them about the long road ahead.

"His message was, 'We don't realize how tough a journey it's going to be,'" Rudin said.

Flexion's experience offers a glimpse into how Huang counsels some departing founders: with encouragement and little sugarcoating. That directness extends through Nvidia's culture, where Huang is known for cutting through management layers and personally weighing in on everything from employee output to customer complaints.

Headshots of Flexion Robotics' David Hoeller and Nikita Rudin.
Flexion Robotics' David Hoeller and Nikita Rudin.

Flexion's relationship with Nvidia didn't end there. Nvidia later invested in the Zurich-based company, which is now expanding into the US, having recently opened a San Francisco office and hired researchers from companies like Meta. In total, it has raised more than $57 million.

Nvidia did not respond to a request for comment.

Founders say Jensen Huang gives 'honest feedback'

For Bing Xu, Huang's parting advice was more personal.

Xu joined Nvidia after it acquired his first startup in 2024. He left earlier this year — walking away from a potentially life-changing sum of Nvidia equity, he said — to build another startup called INT21, which uses AI to improve chip software.

After Xu shared his plans, Huang spent two hours with him and other Nvidia executives discussing his work and trying to convince him to stay.

A headshot of Bing Xu
INT21 founder and CEO Bing Xu.

Huang also offered a pointed critique. He said communication was Xu's biggest weakness and that it could limit his achievements. Xu had a tendency to assume others shared his technical knowledge, making his explanations difficult to follow — and Huang suggested that staying at Nvidia would be a better path, he recalled.

"This is the most honest feedback I had in the past 10 years about myself," said Xu, who now works with a public relations firm. "I didn't think my communication would be such a big problem, but when Jensen told me, I decided I could take this opportunity to become a better version of myself."

The conversation wasn't all tough love. Xu said he was dealing with high blood pressure and other health issues at the time, and Huang encouraged him to take time off and rest.

He viewed both the concern and criticism as evidence that Huang wanted him to succeed.

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Saturday, 12 September 2026

I used to write between lunch breaks at my corporate job. Now my income as a best-selling romantasy author supports my family

Brigid Kemmerer
NYT bestselling author Brigid Kemmerer used to write books during lunch breaks while working in finance.
  • Brigid Kemmerer wrote books during lunch breaks while working in finance and raising three kids.
  • An NYT bestseller gave Kemmerer enough money to quit her corporate job in 2016.
  • Kemmerer said that as a full time writer, losing corporate stability can still feel scary.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Brigid Kemmerer, a New York Times bestselling author of young-adult and romantasy novels. Kemmerer, based in Baltimore and now 48 years old, has worked as a full-time author for the past 10 years and has published at least two dozen books. The essay has been edited for length and clarity.

I've wanted to be a writer since I was 12, when a librarian I knew published her first young-adult novel.

Until then, authors might as well have been movie stars. Seeing a real person become one made writing feel like a possible career.

I started working in finance at 19 and eventually became a licensed stockbroker. After selling my first novel in 2011, I continued working my day job while raising three children and writing whenever I could.

I wrote early in the morning, late at night, and during my lunch hour. In 2016, I finally sold the book that allowed me to leave finance. Becoming a full-time author took years, and my income is now supporting my entire family.

I treated writing like a second job

I always wanted to be a writer, but I never really thought of it as a full-time job.

In my 20s, I worked in finance, and I was a licensed stockbroker. I loved my coworkers, and I liked having a consistent salary.

I sold my first novel in 2011, but publishing is not a get-rich-quick scheme. I used my first advance payment to fix our leaky roof and buy a cheap children's playset from Costco.

For years, my schedule was insane.

I would wake up at 5 a.m. and try to get some words down over coffee before the kids woke up. Then I changed diapers, got everybody dressed, packed their day care bags, dropped them off, and commuted 40 minutes.

Sometimes, I wrote during my lunch hour. I had an ancient, janky laptop that wouldn't work unless it was plugged in, until my husband bought me a MacBook, even though we didn't have MacBook money.

After work, we picked up the kids and made dinner. If I wanted to get words written, I needed to leave the house. I would go to the library or Starbucks and treat writing like a part-time job.

My husband was hands-on with our toddler and newborn while I wrote. Knowing what he was handling at home motivated me to get the words down.

One book allowed me to quit finance

By the end of 2015, I was working full-time, raising three kids, and preparing to publish my sixth book.

I tearfully told my husband that I felt like I was working two full-time jobs. I worried that I would wake up one day to find my kids were 18, and I would have spent their entire childhoods working.

He asked when I had last written something purely because it was fun. I pulled out an old book that had previously been rejected and rewrote the first 75 pages.

That book was "A Curse So Dark and Lonely." It became my biggest deal at the time and my first book to hit The New York Times bestseller list. It gave us enough money for me to quit my day job.

Not everyone took my writing seriously. People would ask, "Are you still doing that little writer thing?" Others asked whether I was ever going to write a "real book."

A manager once openly mocked me in a meeting for writing romance. At the time, I was writing young adult. I became more closed-lipped about my work after that.

When I decided to leave, I planned to give eight weeks' notice because I loved my team and didn't want to let them down. Another manager pulled me aside and told me to give two.

"You've earned the chance to change careers," he said.

Giving up corporate security can be scary

My husband works in IT and was laid off about two months ago as a direct result of AI being introduced at his workplace. We had been covered by his health insurance. Now my author income is paying for our family's coverage.

We are temporarily on COBRA. For a family of five, coverage runs between $2,000 and $2,500 a month. Losing his salary while taking on that expense is a huge financial swing.

It isn't the first time this has happened. We once went without insurance for a few months. One of my kids developed strep throat, and I had to pay cash, and I was terrified.

Another year, our deductible was so high that after injuring my shoulder, I considered extending a trip to Paris and paying cash for an MRI there.

Still, we weather everything as a team. We are very lucky that my writing income can support our family right now. I am hoping we can continue as we have been.

I've now been a full-time author for 10 years. I love the creative freedom, but giving up a consistent salary and corporate benefits can still be scary.

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Friday, 11 September 2026

China's AI chip IPO boom rolls on as another Nvidia challenger soars 200% in market debut

Visitors visit Enflame's AI chips and related products at the Artificial Intelligence Exhibition in Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, China.
Enflame is among a new wave of Chinese AI chipmakers raising capital as Beijing pushes for semiconductor self-sufficiency.
  • China's latest AI chip IPO jumped 200% in its Shanghai debut after raising $913 million.
  • Investor demand is surging as Beijing backs Nvidia challengers amid US chip curbs.
  • Enflame grew revenue 37% last year but remains loss-making and heavily reliant on Tencent.

Investors are piling into China's artificial intelligence chipmakers as Beijing's push to build domestic alternatives to Nvidia fuels a new wave of blockbuster IPOs.

On Friday, Shanghai Enflame Technology surged about 200% in its debut on Shanghai's tech-focused Star market after raising 6.12 billion yuan, or $913 million.

Backed by the Chinese gaming giant Tencent, Enflame develops AI chips for training and inference, making it one of a new generation of domestic chipmakers benefiting from Beijing's push for semiconductor self-sufficiency amid US export restrictions.

Enflame's online retail tranche was more than 6,000 times oversubscribed, underscoring strong investor appetite for Chinese AI chipmakers.

Enflame's debut follows the December listing of fellow AI GPU designer Moore Threads, another Chinese startup seeking to challenge Nvidia, as well as the recent high-profile IPOs of memory chipmaker CXMT and robotics company Unitree.

The listing also offers a glimpse into the economics of China's emerging AI chipmakers.

In 2025, Enflame's revenue rose 37% to 990 million yuan, while its loss excluding non-recurring items narrowed to 1.20 billion yuan, according to the company's listing prospectus. Meanwhile, its largest customer, Chinese internet and gaming giant Tencent, accounted for nearly 84% of sales. The company expects to break even in 2026 or 2027.

Enflame's strong market debut reflects growing investor appetite for Chinese AI and semiconductor IPOs.

China is "still at a very early stage of a multi-year IPO upcycle" as semiconductor, AI infrastructure, and robotics companies tap public markets to fund research and expansion, wrote Morgan Stanley analysts in a note on August 28.

The bank said many of the new listings are developing technologies China sees as strategically important, with companies investing more heavily in research and capital spending, though many have yet to become profitable.

"Capital markets are therefore critical to help them scale up," the bank's analysts wrote.

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Thursday, 10 September 2026

I'm an American who moved to the Netherlands 9 years ago. I love the bike culture, but I miss Trader Joe's and speaking English.

a woman crosses her arms and stands in a library
Jaime Bancroft-Gennaro.
  • Jaime Bancroft-Gennaro moved from the US to the Netherlands in 2017 for a better family life.
  • Her family's transition included embracing Dutch culture and challenges like language barriers.
  • She appreciates the Netherlands' bike culture and community, despite missing American conveniences.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Jaime Bancroft-Gennaro, a 50-year-old consultant and coach, who moved from the US to the Netherlands. It's been edited for length and clarity.

I was born in Pennsylvania, grew up in San Diego, and went to college in Santa Cruz. After graduating, I moved to Oregon. At first, I lived in Bend, and then I spent 15 years in Portland.

When my son was born in 2009, my husband and I moved to Italy, where my husband is from. He was homesick, and it felt like the right move at the time.

When the economy crashed during the global financial crisis, we moved back to the US. We were always pining to get back to Europe — we just didn't know where or when the right time would be.

Before we moved to Europe for the second time, my husband sent me to Amsterdam by myself to see what I thought. I loved it, and we decided to move there.

In 2017, my kids started elementary school

Trump had been elected for the first time. My kids were coming home talking about immigration, lockdown drills, and other things that made me realize this wasn't how I wanted them to grow up.

Around the same time, my husband received a small inheritance, which really sparked the move. I thought, "We have the money to do it now. The timing seems right. When else are we going to do it?"

Amsterdam reminded me of Portland in a lot of ways. It felt like the right place for us. We were nearing the end of our lease, gave our landlord a couple of months' notice, and then moved right outside Amsterdam in 2017.

We didn't know anyone in the Netherlands

We didn't speak Dutch and didn't know the culture, but we felt that if we were ever going to do it, with our kids ages 4 and 6, it was the right time.

I was working in advertising, and there were a lot of advertising companies in Amsterdam. My husband had a job in software, and he moved with that job. I found a new job after I arrived. I worked under a work permit through my company, and that was my sponsorship to live in Europe.

When I later lost that job during COVID-19, I was able to stay in the Netherlands through my husband. I eventually became a citizen myself.

Since moving to the Netherlands, there are things I'm glad we did, things I like, and things I miss.

We got rid of most of our things

I decided we would get rid of most of our things except our kids' stuff. I wanted to bring all of their stuffed animals, toys, gifts they'd received, and their blankets. It felt important to keep what mattered to them — and the things that would make them feel most comfortable when we arrived.

I didn't mind getting rid of my own things. I'm a minimalist, and as someone who has moved around a lot, a purger, too. We brought our clothes, two cool retro chairs I loved from Portland, and my VHS tapes from college. My husband, who is a photographer, also brought a box of old slides.

I liked letting go of things because every time you hit a milestone in your life, or you move, you're a new person. For the things we kept, we hired a company that filled a shipping container with a bunch of other people's boxes. They sold us a portion of the container.

It wasn't much, but it worked. I do wish I had brought my bike because I needed one as soon as I got to the Netherlands.

We moved into a furnished house

We moved into a furnished house that we rented for the first two years, which was really helpful. We didn't have to worry about accumulating a bunch of stuff because we didn't know whether we'd stay long.

In the US, we paid $1,900 a month in rent, which included three bedrooms, carpet, and a dumpy kitchen with an electric stove, but did not include utilities. Our mortgage here for a four-bedroom with an office is €1,500, or around $1,745. We spend €150 a week on groceries.

We placed our kids in a Dutch school

When we arrived, we plopped our kids right into a Dutch school because they were so little. We wanted a language immersion program, but not an international school, because I wanted my kids to feel rooted somewhere rather than transient.

The kids were fluent after six months and stayed there for two years, and then moved to a Dutch public school. They feel like they're in it, whereas international kids tend to be on the outskirts. My kids feel are now fluent in three languages: Dutch, English, and Italian.

I love to take my bike everywhere

I like the bike culture of the Netherlands. In Portland, they have a bike culture, too, but it's not like the Netherlands. Every time you ride a bicycle, you're not on the street. There's a whole bike infrastructure with stoplights, stop signs, and roundabouts.

My kids also ride their bikes everywhere, and they don't need us to drive them around or take them to parties; they're completely independent.

I work from home and never drive anymore. If I ever left the Netherlands, I'd miss the bike culture.

People are always there to help each other

I love that everyone watches out for each other. If a kid falls off their bicycle, people are immediately around them trying to help. If an older person falls, it's the same thing. No one just passes them by.

We also have a neighborhood WhatsApp group where one older woman often asks, "Can someone help take out my garbage, or have coffee with me?" and people happily do. There's this sense of community where I think Americans are now getting a little bit scared of each other.

There are things I miss, including Trader Joe's

I miss going to Trader Joe's. OK, I miss Trader Joe's a lot.

I miss the small talk. I miss going to the grocery store and having the cashier ask how my day is going. Here, they're not chit-chatters. They use words very efficiently.

Also, they don't bag your groceries here.

I also miss English

People speak a lot of English in the Netherlands, but every time I leave the house, there's a little apprehension. I took a few Dutch classes when I first moved, and I know enough to get by at this point.

Still, I mainly worry I'll misunderstand someone or say something they won't understand. For example, if I get into a complicated situation, like falling off my bike and taking an ambulance, it would exceed my language abilities. Or when I visit my husband's family, they speak Italian.

Sometimes I feel like I'm not my full self, and I'd like to be. I'm friendly. I like talking to and meeting people. It feels embarrassing to ask somebody to speak English because I live here. I've realized I've become much quieter and more reserved than I was back in the US. I've become way more of a wallflower, and that makes me homesick.

Despite the discomfort, I would do it again

When I first moved here, I was uncomfortable. I had dreams about leaving, and I was ready to leave. I thought, I don't want to do this, but I had to move through the discomfort of being somewhere new.

Within the last couple of years, I've appreciated living here a lot more. I often think, look at what we did. I think it's so cool that we moved here.

At my 10-year anniversary of living here, I'd like to have a plan to move somewhere else. My son is in his last year of high school, and my daughter is a sophomore, but she's open to finishing high school somewhere else in Europe.

I like watching my kids really thrive in their communities, navigating friendships, and finding their places. I feel like we all have found our little pocket in the world, and I'm really appreciating it a lot more than I think I ever have.

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